Comments for DatingJosh http://datingjosh.wordpress.com Roethke meets Marlowe... In Hell... Thu, 11 Dec 2008 02:15:20 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 Comment on This Is Going To Be A Little Tricky… by Angel http://datingjosh.wordpress.com/2007/05/14/this-is-going-to-be-a-little-tricky/#comment-288 Angel Thu, 11 Dec 2008 02:15:20 +0000 http://datingjosh.wordpress.com/2007/05/14/this-is-going-to-be-a-little-tricky/#comment-288 Adriana Baal is an excellent relationship counselor in the St. Louis area. She will help figure out why you have fallen into such patterns and how not to keep making the same mistakes. She changed my life and she can change yours. Adriana Baal is an excellent relationship counselor in the St. Louis area. She will help figure out why you have fallen into such patterns and how not to keep making the same mistakes. She changed my life and she can change yours.

]]> Comment on Irony Is So Very Delicious by Fellow Traveler http://datingjosh.wordpress.com/2007/06/15/irony-is-so-very-delicious/#comment-287 Fellow Traveler Wed, 15 Oct 2008 19:28:24 +0000 http://datingjosh.wordpress.com/2007/06/15/irony-is-so-very-delicious/#comment-287 Just to have the most complete experience as I read this post I put on Crow's song. Felt like I was there. Good description. Only suggestion I would give on the writing to do a Whitman and to use the simplest word. Don't use the 10 dollar word when a 5 dollar one will do. Just to have the most complete experience as I read this post I put on Crow’s song. Felt like I was there. Good description. Only suggestion I would give on the writing to do a Whitman and to use the simplest word. Don’t use the 10 dollar word when a 5 dollar one will do.

]]> Comment on This Is Going To Be A Little Tricky… by Fellow Traveler http://datingjosh.wordpress.com/2007/05/14/this-is-going-to-be-a-little-tricky/#comment-286 Fellow Traveler Wed, 15 Oct 2008 18:20:08 +0000 http://datingjosh.wordpress.com/2007/05/14/this-is-going-to-be-a-little-tricky/#comment-286 Dude, that must be extremely painful. Remember that you didn't start being distant AFTER Jennifer; you were distant and pushing her away while you were with her. She didn't push you away. You ran. Until you learn WHY you push women away and won't let them get close to you you're just gonna keep repeating the pattern and blaming it on being hurt by Jennifer. Jennifer. Kimberly. The names will come. The names will go. What they will have in common is you and the self-inflicted hurt, champ. A kind of self-waterboarding. A Guantanimo of your very own making. I know. I've been there. I am there. Therapy is helping me to break the pattern. Helping me to love someone and let them love me. One step at a step. You got to get a therapist you can work with who you can learn to trust and get to the bottom of the fear and allow you to explore it. It's scary, but true: if you're not able to come to grips with this there's a good chance that in 20 years you'll be stuck in the same place with a litany of names on your lips. Or in a mad rush to overcome the fear one day you'll impulsively ask some woman to marry you, expecting that having made the leap it will suddenly dispel the fears. It might. For a time. But then the fears will creep back. And you'll have to face them. Pay it now or pay it later; either way the bill always comes due. Begin where you are. Pick up the phone. Get some recommendations for good therapists. Visit a couple of them. See who you feel you can work with. Negotiate a price for the sessions that works for you both. Get started. Begin wherever you are. Best wishes for you. A Fellow Traveler Dude, that must be extremely painful.

Remember that you didn’t start being distant AFTER Jennifer; you were distant and pushing her away while you were with her.

She didn’t push you away. You ran. Until you learn WHY you push women away and won’t let them get close to you you’re just gonna keep repeating the pattern and blaming it on being hurt by Jennifer.

Jennifer. Kimberly. The names will come. The names will go. What they will have in common is you and the self-inflicted hurt, champ.
A kind of self-waterboarding. A Guantanimo of your very own making. I know. I’ve been there. I am there. Therapy is helping me to break the pattern. Helping me to love someone and let them love me. One step at a step.

You got to get a therapist you can work with who you can learn to trust and get to the bottom of the fear and allow you to explore it.

It’s scary, but true: if you’re not able to come to grips with this there’s a good chance that in 20 years you’ll be stuck in the same place with a litany of names on your lips. Or in a mad rush to overcome the fear one day you’ll impulsively ask some woman to marry you, expecting that having made the leap it will suddenly dispel the fears. It might. For a time. But then the fears will creep back. And you’ll have to face them.

Pay it now or pay it later; either way the bill always comes due.

Begin where you are. Pick up the phone. Get some recommendations for good therapists. Visit a couple of them. See who you feel you can work with. Negotiate a price for the sessions that works for you both.

Get started. Begin wherever you are.

Best wishes for you.

A Fellow Traveler

]]> Comment on The Morning Routine, As Of Late by K.S. http://datingjosh.wordpress.com/2007/05/30/the-morning-routine-as-of-late/#comment-285 K.S. Fri, 04 Jul 2008 21:45:41 +0000 http://datingjosh.wordpress.com/2007/05/30/the-morning-routine-as-of-late/#comment-285 Wow. That is the most beautiful thing I have ever read. I close my eyes and feel like I am right next to you, looking over your shoulder, as you prepare to shoulder the weight of another day. Wow. That is the most beautiful thing I have ever read. I close my eyes and feel like I am right next to you, looking over your shoulder, as you prepare to shoulder the weight of another day.

]]> Comment on This Is Going To Be A Little Tricky… by K.S. http://datingjosh.wordpress.com/2007/05/14/this-is-going-to-be-a-little-tricky/#comment-284 K.S. Fri, 04 Jul 2008 21:39:48 +0000 http://datingjosh.wordpress.com/2007/05/14/this-is-going-to-be-a-little-tricky/#comment-284 Reading those words, I cannot believe it did not work. There is no justice in this world; no peace and tranquility with the coming dawn. Never before have I seen such pure, naked emotion expressed so justly. I am truly sorry for you. Sorry to say, but I bet she really never loved you at all. Reading those words, I cannot believe it did not work. There is no justice in this world; no peace and tranquility with the coming dawn. Never before have I seen such pure, naked emotion expressed so justly. I am truly sorry for you.

Sorry to say, but I bet she really never loved you at all.

]]> Comment on A Beautiful Sunset On This Cool Night by Ryan http://datingjosh.wordpress.com/2007/06/19/a-beautiful-sunset-on-this-cool-night/#comment-29 Ryan Mon, 25 Jun 2007 14:22:18 +0000 http://datingjosh.wordpress.com/2007/06/19/a-beautiful-sunset-on-this-cool-night/#comment-29 Dude... what is up...? You vanished... ...You're cell phone must have broke... anyway.. you should email me.. R. Clouser Dude…
what is up…? You vanished… …You’re cell phone must have broke…
anyway.. you should email me..

R. Clouser

]]> Comment on ¡Que Lastima! by Leonard Cohen http://datingjosh.wordpress.com/2007/05/21/%c2%a1que-lastima/#comment-25 Leonard Cohen Thu, 07 Jun 2007 03:15:48 +0000 http://datingjosh.wordpress.com/2007/05/21/%c2%a1que-lastima/#comment-25 If all else fails, go out and buy one of my albums. If all else fails, go out and buy one of my albums.

]]> Comment on Breakfast, Anyone? by T-Bomb http://datingjosh.wordpress.com/2007/05/29/breakfast-anyone/#comment-24 T-Bomb Thu, 31 May 2007 17:07:27 +0000 http://datingjosh.wordpress.com/2007/05/29/breakfast-anyone/#comment-24 Thanks, Ann, for the recipe. It sounds like it makes a mean flapjack. Thanks, Ann, for the recipe. It sounds like it makes a mean flapjack.

]]> Comment on The Morning Routine, As Of Late by T-Bomb http://datingjosh.wordpress.com/2007/05/30/the-morning-routine-as-of-late/#comment-23 T-Bomb Thu, 31 May 2007 17:06:04 +0000 http://datingjosh.wordpress.com/2007/05/30/the-morning-routine-as-of-late/#comment-23 You are obsessed with the Wiki. I am going to turn you into a Wiki! You are obsessed with the Wiki. I am going to turn you into a Wiki!

]]> Comment on Breakfast, Anyone? by ann at mommysecrets http://datingjosh.wordpress.com/2007/05/29/breakfast-anyone/#comment-22 ann at mommysecrets Thu, 31 May 2007 13:40:08 +0000 http://datingjosh.wordpress.com/2007/05/29/breakfast-anyone/#comment-22 Meltdowns in the kitchen are so funny! Here's a yummy failproof pancake recipe from my brother-in-law: 1.25 cups all-purpose flour 1.25 cups buttermilk (if batter is too thick, add a little more after mixed together) 1/4 cup sugar 1t. vanilla 1t. baking soda 1t baking powder 1 egg 1/4 cup oil Optional: 1T of brown sugar Mix together & pour. Meltdowns in the kitchen are so funny!

Here’s a yummy failproof pancake recipe from my brother-in-law:

1.25 cups all-purpose flour
1.25 cups buttermilk (if batter is too thick, add a little more after mixed together)
1/4 cup sugar
1t. vanilla
1t. baking soda
1t baking powder
1 egg
1/4 cup oil
Optional: 1T of brown sugar

Mix together & pour.

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